Comments on: Amae And Japanese Girls

By: Women Want Me

Women Want Me — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 22:45:27 +0000

Nice, I just stumbled on your website and I’ve got to say that i am impressed! I’ll have to spend an afternoon going over your older posts.

By: Yaeko Schewe

Yaeko Schewe — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 21:11:07 +0000

Took me moments to read most of the comments, but I honestly love your article. It proved to be great to me and I am sure to all the commenters here! It is best to nice when you can not only be explained to, as well as engaged! I believe you had joy writing this post.

By: Neil

Neil — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 03:59:22 +0000

Thanks for the comment Britt. Agree, it was just meant to be some observations, that i would make in any country i was living. The people that were against the post fall into a “love Japan at all costs, never say a bad word about it” group and immediately took my observations as negative …. and …. you know the rest.

By: Britt

Britt — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 02:45:29 +0000

I have changed my voice to a higher-pitch when talking to say a customer, but that happened unconsciously. I hadn’t noticed until a co-worker said I did that. I’m going to guess I starting doing that after working as a cashier for a while (first a bagger). I’m glad it’s not abnormal even if I’m American.

After reading all the comments, congrats on holding your ground. The only thing I don’t understand is why people thought your post was stating fact rather than your own opinion. Hopefully now people will know that.

By: Neil

Neil — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:05:16 +0000

“Looks like there’s a lot of stuff I missed before I started trolling here” …. Hahahaha, very amused at this indeed! Will have to have a read of the comments on here to refresh myself soon.

By: john turningpin

john turningpin — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 07:49:56 +0000

Wow. Just got through with this post and the Japan is Doomed one. Looks like I missed a good flame war. Pity.

Got a good chuckle out of the nihonjinron comment. Whether respected or not, nihonjinron is alive and well. Watch any “wide show.” Hell, watch any show. It’s there.

Re: “Japanese women often have a higher-pitched voice than Western women, and the Japanese language lends itself to this.”

Aaand cue the nihonjinron! It has nothing to do with the Japanese language and everything to do with the fact that adopting a higher pitch is somehow seen as more polite. Men do it as well as women; I have witnessed this firsthand at every job I’ve ever worked here. Compare a coworker’s normal voice to how they speak on the phone. Or just watch the news. Protip: That’s not their normal speaking voice!

Good post Neil. Looks like there’s a lot of stuff I missed before I started trolling here.

By: Neil

Neil — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 00:42:38 +0000

As long as they start at the top they’ll see his comments and be able to distinguish.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 00:34:14 +0000

Looks like a nice disclaimer ^^. To anyone reading: I ‘d like you to note that there is more than one ‘Mike’ participating in this thread. I am not the one referred to in the Disclaimer.

By: Neil

Neil — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 23:47:54 +0000

Hi Mike, as for your comments (and i do appreciate the time you’ve taken) … here’s mine in return …

Edited the post – the only edit i did was to include 1 line to mention the article Mike from Japan is Doomed wrote, and to link to him, which i removed a while back because the thread on his site shit me off …. and the racial angle he cited.

Content – yes, without writing war and peace and actually writing it as just some random thoughts and through my eyes, which is really the only way i can write, i’ve thrown down my thoughts. I’ve missed many things and i’ve probably been judgemental in many ways …. but like i said, in the interest of keeping it to a manageable size post i wrote what i wrote.

Disclaimer – there’s merit in that but most people should realise it’s opinion and experience rather than fact that i’m writing. Everyone’s own personal experiences will be different and funnily enough the way each individual read the article was interesting too … most saw it for what it was. Those that didn’t often haven’t lived in Japan for long periods of time, haven’t worked for a Japanese company, are considerably younger than i and also don’t mix in the same circles as i do …. that of a Salary Mans existence. Life is very different in Japan depending on your situation in life.

Appreciate your comments re the “statement” … will read the article again, and make a note to make things clear.

Even more keen to read your article now mate.

Cheers.

By: Neil

Neil — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 23:37:31 +0000

Looking forward to reading your essay sometime. I’m by no means an expert, my comments are purely my opinion based on observations living and working in Japan for a few years.