I need to redeem myself from my last Nomikai with the guys. The last one was a going away for a colleague and after the first party we ended up at a second men only gathering. I did the right thing and left in time for the last train at 11.45pm which should have seen me home by a little before 1am. My starting station was Hon-Atsugi, 50 kms from Tokyo and my home is the second last stop on the line. Only problem this night was i made it all the way up to the end, then 3/4 of the way back down the line …. fast asleep. I woke with a poke in the guts from the inspector and heard “Sagami-ono” … which is 40 odd kms from where i needed to be …. not to mention it was 2am. After slinking out of the station i hailed a cab and back in the right direction i went. I’d heard rumours about how much a cab cost from work to home so i was prepared for it ….. a little over $180 AUD. Guess i won’t be doing that again!
After getting sign off on Q3 deliverables last night we have a “Nomikai” planned for tonight.
We will go to a local place near work ちゃんこ鍋・割烹 福よし and the festivities will begin.
A Nomikai (Japanese: 飲み会) is a drinking party phenomenon particular to Japanese culture. Nomikais are a part of the culture of most places of employment, from schools to nightclubs. They are most often held in restaurants or izakayas, usually with everyone seated at one large table or occupying a separated section of the venue.
Employees are usually expected to participate to some extent in various nomikais, as it is considered a social aspect of work, although it is not expressly required. Such parties focus on the bond between coworkers as a group, and are not considered private or somehow non-work related. Attendance does not necessarily imply that a person will drink any alcohol, however, and attendees generally pay a set amount for the food, drink, and venue regardless of consumption. Any leftover money may be put toward organizing the next Nomikai.
Procedure
Nomikais are held to mark of a wide range of events, including completion of major projects, attainment of set goals, foundation anniversaries, school sporting events, entry of new coworkers, and retirement of senior employees. There is always at least one organizer (Japanese: 幹事, Kanji) responsible for the preparation of the venue. This is usually not the same person or persons for whom the Nomikai takes place.
With the exception of the end of year bōnenkai (Japanese: 忘年会; forget the year party), most nomikais consist of workers in one section or department of the workplace. In the case of the bōnenkai, everyone in the entire company may be present. In large companies, however, separate bōnenkais are often the norm for each department. Additionally, there may be both kinds of bōnenkai on separate dates. For example, there may be a math department bōnenkai on one day, with a school-wide bōnenkai for all teachers the following week.
At onset of the Nomikai, the organizers give a brief welcome speech, followed by the manager, president, or principal, who offers words of reflection and encouragement. The monologue is punctuated by a toast after which everyone begins eating and drinking. If there are new employees or guests at the Nomikai, it is customary for them also to give a self-introduction and salutation to the other members.
Nomikais are nearly always concluded after a few hours by everyone standing, clapping in unison. There are two main styles of clapping: ippon-jime and sanbon-jime. These translate roughly to “one-clap ending” and “three-clap ending”, respectively. A three-clap ending is actually three series of three claps, followed by a single clap. Often this is repeated three times, leaving the total number of claps at thirty. Sometimes the shime (ending) may happen in conjunction with a verbose salute to the organizer or honored participant, or the singing of the company or school song.
The nijikai (Japanese: 二次会) is the afterparty. After the main Nomikai is concluded, the attendees often break into smaller groups and move to different bars. As attendance is not at all mandatory for nijikais, they usually are comprised of groups of Friends or people interested in doing a lot of drinking, including bar-hopping. Drinking that comes after a nijikai is referred to as sanjikai (三次会).
Nomikai etiquette
During nomikais there are rules of etiquette which should be followed. Generally, one tries to avoid filling one’s own glass, but instead offers to fill others’ for them. This is especially true of senpai-kōhai relationships, where the participant of lower rank or age will first offer to serve his superior. This relationship is often reciprocal, and the superior will offer to fill the junior’s glass in return. This is not perceived so much as currying favor as it is perceived as acting in a manner conducive to workplace harmony.
Another point of etiquette which differs from many Western business cultures is that it is quite alright to get drunk at nomikais. In the same vein, things said and done under such circumstances are not taken as seriously, are forgiven, or are ignored upon return to the workplace. Consequently, there are sometimes frank and emotional displays between coworkers, regardless of rank, which may not occur in a normal workplace context. This phenomenon is called bureikō in Japanese (無礼講).
On the other hand, it is generally regarded as unacceptable to pressure people into drinking alcohol or consuming more of it than they want. Participants may drink non-alcoholic beverages or leave a glass full to signal that they are not willing to drink any (more) alcohol.
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